You walk into a room. People see you, but they don't rush over to talk to you. In fact, they hardly notice much else besides the fact that you entered the room. Within seconds, they've forgotten about you, and you blend into the ho-hum mediocrity of the others who surround you. Why? You're not exuding charisma. If you want to be more likable, a people-magnet, you need to improve your charisma. And it's actually something you can do if you give it a little effort.
Whoever said anything other than black "is the new black" is sorely misguided. Orange is not the new black. Pink is not the new black. What kind of lunatic would shove out the best color in the world to make room for another, less awesome color? Black is the new black. You can wear black on black in a variety of situations. There's no such thing as too much black, to be honest, and if you don't agree, then I don't know why you're reading this post. Does white make you look thin? Didn't think so.
We all know that the English language is finicky. Some things about it simply don't make sense--especially when you compare it to the other languages of the world. However, that doesn't mean you can't master it (or at least get a little better every day). With that being said, I'm here to tackle one of the most confusing debacles in the book: when to use well vs good.
Ahhh, sweet autumn. I never once knew your true beauty before I left the balmy confines of Florida, my home state, just about a year ago. Before I started a new, shiny life in North Carolina, I spent countless miserable hours in Florida bars, wiping the sweat off my face and trying to reapply a smidgeon of face powder--anything to get rid of my glaring, shiny forehead. But no powder is a match for 100% humidity in a crowded place--everyone smells, and nobody smells good. Gross humans rub up against you and you can't blame them for not having large quantities of skin covered, but you still think they should be wearing a turtleneck of sorts, just to prevent their spiky forearms from accidentally touching yours. But that is my past. I have a new, shiny life in a place that has all four seasons. I can finally, officially experience fall.
Think of some of the worst things in your life. Some of the things you hate. Going to the dentist? Your idiot boss? Rush hour traffic? The slimy film on pre-packaged cold cuts? All of these things are pretty bad--especially the latter. But there's something plaguing your social life, too, and it's not your subpar karaoke skills. It's the realization that making friends as an adult is hard. In fact, I'd go as far to say that making friends as an adult is the worst.
In a world where communication has become mostly digital, having conversations with people IRL can conjure anxiety in some people. Especially when you're used to typing away a response that you've had plenty of time to think about, you might freak out at the thought of trying to contribute to a smooth, organic conversation. If you're one of those people who shudders at the thought of a room filled with potential business or social connections, this post is for you. Here's how you can be a better networker.